Sunday, January 27, 2013

40 Is the New Awesome

I have a younger male friend who has recently (and graciously) been acting you know, maybe just a tad crushy on me.  He just broke up with his 20 year old girlfriend, and I think he’s doing a little compare-and-contrast business and has come to the conclusion that I’m kinda awesome.

(Yes, you can read by the radioactive glow of my ego.)
But honestly? I’d better be.

I’ve been around for literally twice as long as she has.  If I haven’t done something with that time to make myself more interesting, more generally awesome, then shame on me.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Good Relationships Are...

A friend of mine was talking to me today about his relationship, in that way that a person talks about their relationship when they’re not so sure it ought to be their relationship any more, and I wanted to give him some advice.  Not that, you know, he asked for it, but just because, well, I’m older, and I have extensive experience in terminal relationships.
But the truth is, I don’t know much about his relationship, and I don’t know his girlfriend at all, so there wasn’t a lot I could say.
So then I started thinking about the bigger picture, you know, the things that one could say about any relationship, the universal truths, such as they are, about what happens when two people collide.  And I wished I had said this:

Tuesday, January 15, 2013


Oh good lord, it has been so long since I have blogged that it took me two tries to correctly log in.
But I have a good excuse, or a bad one:  I have been busy getting divorced.
And, for all of you who’ve heard it sucks, let me just say: It does.
It sucks in so, so many ways—the big and the little, the serious and the silly, the transient and the lasting—that the only earthly reason I can ever imagine anyone doing it is that they honestly believe the alternative would be, on balance, worse.